There is certain etiquette when it comes to planning a wedding party (or wedding shower). The established guidelines are not laws that must be followed (or suffer the consequences). They are just a set of helpful considerations one can contemplate during the planning stages of a wedding party.
Here are some helpful tips to guide you through your planning:
DON’T: Wait for one of the bridesmaids to get a party together.
DO: Host it if you want to.
If you really want to throw a party for the future bride and groom, go right ahead. There is a common misconception about the bridesmaids being the ones who should host the party. Any friends of the bride or groom are more than welcome to host the party.
DON’T: Schedule the party to take place within a month of the wedding.
DO: Schedule it to take place two to three months before the wedding.
The reason for this is pretty obvious. This is a courtesy to the bride and groom. They both (let’s be honest, it’s mostly the bride we’re talking about) have a lot to take care of in that last month before the wedding. They probably won’t be able to enjoy themselves as much when they’re thinking of everything they need to get done before their big day.
DON’T: Invite anyone and everyone to the party.
DO: Invite anyone who’s on the wedding guest list.
A word of caution, it’s okay to invite anyone you’d like off of the list of those invited to the wedding, but don’t invite everyone from it. Try to keep it to the bride and groom’s closest friends. If you invite everyone, it might seem like some sort of gift receiving power struggle.
DON’T: Wait until the last minute to send out the invitations.
DO: Send out your invitations at least a month before the party.
If you wait until the last minute to get this step taken care of, chances are there will be problems. Mainly, people won’t be able to attend the party because you didn’t give them enough time to make sure their schedules were clear. Waiting too long also gives them that much more time to plan something else for that day. Get your invitation to them early enough so they can reserve that spot for your party.
This wedding party planning etiquette won’t ensure that absolutely nothing will go wrong, but keeping these do’s and don’ts in the forefront of your mind will give you a great chance of throwing a nearly perfect wedding party that the bride, groom, and friends will remember fondly.